Today, the modern teen is portrayed and somewhat expected to be irresponsible, self-absorbed, and defiant. We often refer to the adolescent years as a time of mischief and trouble that cannot be avoided. Like me, many parents long for the teen years to pass quickly, so they can begin enjoying life again. While those who have raised teens can relate to that kind of thinking, this does not foster a successful style of parenting.
It is my desire that this book will be effective in helping parents go through the teenage parenting phase of their lives with confidence and smiles’, rather than stress and exasperation.
Whether you are a single parent, married parent, mother of 10 or father of 2, keeping up with your responsibilities as a parent can be stressful. Becoming too stressed can leave you without energy, enthusiasm and joy, and it can also have a negative impact on your physical and emotional health.
This is a small manual to help relieve that stress. Take less than 30 mins and yet you get the basic principles even enough to teach a friend. You can also easily score yourself and select areas to do better.
Effective parenting must be properly planned if you will be really rewarded by God at the end. There are many people today who are leaving the responsibilities of parenting to strangers, and at the end of the day, the children also turn out to be strangers. Godly parents do not leave their responsibilities to chance; they make deliberate sacrificial choices, having an expected end in mind. Today, it is increasingly becoming very difficult to raise godly children because Western culture and ideas have infiltrated our background. God is longing for fathers who will love and care for the home. God is longing for mothers who will help the children become the best that God wants them to be.
How did I get to this? How did my child learn to drink? What could have led him to it? Smoking? Not possible! Drugs? No Never! Lying, stealing, illicit sex and others are things we wish our children do not indulge in. It is usually a shock to us parents when we suddenly discover our children are not the ‘model’ children we thought they were.
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There is a part we play as parents but is not always our fault. Other factors contribute to push them to the wrong path. It is important we do not stay in denial but grab the ‘bull by the horns’ and come out shining with them at the other side.
Did you just discover that your seemingly adorable, quiet son smokes and drinks? Probably uses drugs too? Or has your teenage daughter suddenly just confessed to you that she is pregnant! You had been seeing some signs but you kept living in denial? Or you just found condoms in your adolescent’s room? Yet you thought you were a model parent, God fearing, kind, firm and all. You taught them values and did your best to provide for them. Now this! You wonder – ‘Shall I just resign to fate? Is it not too late?
Think about any change you have ever made in your life, whether you quit smoking, ended an unhealthy relationship, changed jobs or lost weight. Our children have the ability to change their behaviour, too. It is often the motivation they lack.